stylegal's Blog

You can not possibly be a mother an write such a stupid and ignorant comment. Those people that committed those crimes had a choice. They chose to be criminals. If you had kids then you would definitely know that you can go through their lives instilling all the morals and values that you want. You can put them in every Boy Scout Troop and give them the best example in the world but when they get to be young adults and make decisions on their own all that sometimes goes out the window and what they want to do kicks in.

I will agree with you on one point...if the mother took part in any way of harboring her son then she should be prosecuted as well.

I teach my children and have raised them with a firm hand but my boys are well aware that if you get into trouble the last place you would want to come is here because I will be your biggest snitch.

I agree with Stylegal. For the most party everything goes back to the way you were raised. There is always exceptions but if these murders were held accounting at home when they did wrong and if their parents led by example they most likely would have chose a different path.

I agree with Skyebird. Stylegal can't be a parent. I grew up in a two parent household until I was 11 when my father passed. My mother was very young. She raised three kids of her own and later had to raise her murdered sister two kids. I am now 40 years old with three children of my own. I have always instilled in my kids very good values. I get comments all the time on the behavior of my children. My kids ages are 21, 19 and 17. I to this day have not have a problem with them. I have been married to my husband for 22 years this year, I worked since age 16, I NEVER did drugs, I don't drink or hang out in clubs. We put our oldest through college, my son work and my youngest go to a private school in which I pay $618.00 a month and she is a honor student looking at a four scholarship. By the way my mother was able to buy each one of her kids a home in which I own and is paid for. After all my mother's hard work to provide for us, my one brother has been locked up and my other brother is on drugs. Please tell me where my mother went wrong or better yet, where did I go wrong if my children turns out to be a criminal? If you are wondering about the other two kids she raised, one went into the Army and know lives in Maryland. She is 27 making over $70,000 a year and her brother is now in a wheelchair due to a swimming accident. He is living very well from his accident if you know what I mean.

I had wrote a comment about it starting at home earlier, I do agree with that. You are right, they had a choice..Hmmm let me see,should I go rob a store and kill someone or should I get a job? Well.....unfortunately I guess its easier to kill someone for money instead of working.What a sad world we live in. I also know that there have probably been good parents that have raised lowlifes and thats sad..but mostly it is how children are raised. I have a 20 yr old and a 10 yr old and I hope to god that they have learned right and wrong from me.

Yes I agree we all have minds of our own but how we are guided is a huge part! First, I am not judging but most of the time when you look into the past of a "criminal" take a look at their background,seriously. There are families that raise their children with good morals and they still turn out messed up. Our society has made it so that we cannot repremand our children the way they need to be or social services will come after us. When I was younger, I am 37, there was nothing wrong with getting a smack when I was fresh or out of line, kids knew how to behave. Todays generation is out of control, the big people have lost control!

Some people that commit a crime my have had it harder than the next but at the same time that can make them stronger to do the right thing. Look at some of the people that have killed other people that had a good life. Look at the Peterson murder. I can't recall right now their names but I think the man was a lawyer and he killed the young girl he was involved with and dumped her body in a cooler in the middle of the ocean. That's the problem with some parents now. I never was afraid to discipline my kids just because the law said I couldn't do it. I did whatever it took to make sure my kids understood I was not putting up with hard heads. I was all prepared to look a judge in their face and tell them that if I had too. They way I raise my kids worked. I barely had to touch them. I truly think another big problem is too many babies are having babies. How can someone who can barely read raise a child? As I said before, my mother raised five children by herself. I had caught her plenty of nights crying because of my brothers. She also thought she did a bad job raising us. Two bad seeds out of five is not bad. My brother choices are theirs. We were all treated the same.

YOU ARE SO,SO, RIGHT. MY SON WAS MURDERED FEB 15,2007. AND I COULD NOT BELIVE WHEN I WENT TO COURT THE LOOK ON THAT MUREDER'S MOTHER'S FACE LIKE SHE WAS SO HEART BROKEN ABOUT HER SON.BUT YET AND STILL HER SON LIVE'S BREATHES AND SITTING UP IN JAIL STILL BEING CARED FOR THREE MEAL'S A DAY AND A COT . HE IS NOT EVEN WORTHY OF THAT. AND HAVE A NERVE TO BEABLE TO BE IN PROTECTIVE CUSTDY. PLEASE!! WHO PROTECTED MY CHILD !! FROM HIM !! THESE MOTHERS NEED TO BE IN PRISON RIGHT WITH THEIR SORRY BEHIND WORTHLESS KID'S. AND TRUST EVERY PARENT KNOW'S THEIR CHILDREN. I SURELY KNEW ALL OF MINE!!

THEN THEIR THE FIRST ONE'S THAT WANT TO SAY THEY HAD A GOOD CHILD !! ( BULL )AND WHEN THE COP'S BEAT THEIR SORRY BUTTS IT'S ONLY BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT THE PARENT SHOULD HAVE DONE LONG TIME AGO !!!!

marlene1988 you are so right.
If you had a child that killed someone, to open your mouth and say "my son was a good boy", should not even come out of your mouth.

A good boy does not walk with friends that are criminals
A good boy does not carry an unlicensed gun
A good boy does not sell drugs
A good boy does not steal other's money or belongings, as that person that was robbed worked long hours
A good boy does not carry a gun to commit a crime
A good boy not assault someone
A good boy does not steal a car
A good boy does not shoot someone
A good boy does not rape someone
A good boy does not kill someone

If you son has done any of the above, he is not and was not a good boy

I have to strongly disagree, parents can't and should not be blamed for the things there adult children do. Especially when it comes to crime. Can we say that parents are to blame when we send our children to school or to college and they get hooked on drugs? hmmm...

wow...its responses like yours sunshine that makes me wish there were MORE police beatings. Moralless, valueless, disrespectful? You are all three.

Yes people make choices but how people are brought up has a huge impact on the choices they make.

And yes, you can blame parents for at least being partly responsible for their children's behavior, adult or child. most adult behavior issues are rooted in childhood experience...look it up, I'll wait. i know what i speak of, as a recovering alcoholic, i made the choice to do the things i did, but what made me want to do those things in the first place? maybe my dysfunctional upbringing? maybe my parents,who spent more time fighting with each other than worrying about what it was doing to their children? Maybe generations of dysfunction? We are all a product of our upbringing, good or bad or both. One of the biggest problems in this country is that you can't call anyone on their BS. You can't offend anyone by telling the truth. You can't expect people to take responsibility for ANYTHING anymore