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Why do women who recieve child support not do for the child
Nov 28, 2006 | 11:04 PM
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Why do mom's who recieve child support do the right for the child.

the mom has all the rights and the father only has the right to pay child support and provide health care.

Why do mom's do that? wWhy fight with the father and his family about seeing the child?

The only person who suffers is the child. He/She is put in the middle and then have to grow up in a dysfunctional home. Especially when the mom is a coke head and a drunk. Keeps getting themselves re-habed. Only because the courts say so. Then the mom plays the biggest act that she cares about the child and dresses to the hilt and buys the childs clothes at salvation army, when she buys herself the good clothes. Nothing wrong with buying clothes from salvation army, except when the mother is recieving $700.00 a month for one child and she is getting drunk and high.. plus good health insurance, yet allowed to have medicaid, care source, for extra coverage. The mother is getting everything for her. Yet, the father is the absent one and he is the one who looks bad, not the mother.

if someone who can explain this that would be great. I do not think I will ever understand.

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survivormom read my blog view my photos
Nov 29, 2006 | 7:37 AM

well....hillbilly~~ i think i am the wrong person here to respond to this blog. But i am one of those single mothers w/ 3 children who do NOT receive child support from their father. I think it is a shame that families can not get along for the sake of the children but in MY case my childrens father is not allowed to see them. We came from a very violent situation. I think the same thing should go for you (i am assuming maybe that we are talking about you), if you believe this woman is abusing the money than you need to fight for those children and get proof what is really being spent on the money. i really don't like to put my business out there but, because of what my ex did to me and my kids i am no longer able to work. i do NOT receive welfare or medicaid however my kids do get insurance through the government because my EX refuses to pay child support and for that matter even keep a job, but as i was going to say i had to apply for social security. i hated that i had to do this because i am fairly young, but not being able to work i had to do something for MY kids. i did not know qt the time that they too would b getting a check. social security told me i had to account for every penny i spent on my kids.. the only thing i could think to do was to open a checking account for each of them and to this day not a penny has been spent,...it's like a little child support account i call it. maybe something like this needs to be done for parents who do receive child support...maybe you can suggest this to your attorney. Good luck. not all mothers are like this woman as i know
survivormom read my blog view my photos
Nov 29, 2006 | 7:38 AM

oops got cut off.....not all men are like my ex
michellemarsh68
Nov 29, 2006 | 10:33 AM

Not all moms are like that hillbilly. There are some that do all they possibly can for their child(ren). What about the fathers who refuse to pay?? How can you NOT pay for your child? There is good and bad in both sides, unfortunately we only hear of the bad. I give the single moms out there a pat on the back because its hard to work and be there for the kids all the time. But its worth it. I'm learning this as I go along being a recent single mom of one. Sometimes its heartbreaking to have to go to work everyday and not be at home for my child when they need it. But the kids know that what we single parents do we do for them. Like I said before not all of us are like the one you mentioned. Its just onese like that that make us all look bad. Take care my friend and have a happy and safe holiday season.
Brownsfreak read my blog
Nov 29, 2006 | 6:41 PM

How about the fathers who have custody of the children and the mother pays hardly anything in child support and when she falls behind a tear gets a reduction! I know, I have full custody of my 3 children,she walked and my ex pays $100.00 a week thats it. No Health Insurance provided by her. Nothing. I was told by support that I would pay more if the shoe was on the other foot.So someone tell me is there a Discount daddy store where I can provide for my children in ohio. sorry I shouldn't get mad but it bothers me that the few men who step up get short changed.
Pikie read my blog view my photos
Nov 29, 2006 | 7:13 PM

This is a sore one for me. My husband pays child support to the tune of over $800.00 per month (and he's on permanent retirement/disability) and she can't even buy them school clothes or school pictures or any school sports fees. But she does have a new expensive grill, a new 75 gallon fish tank full of ciclids, a new van, school pictures & expensive toys for her other 4 children. When something was said to her, her reply was: "My lawyer says I can spend child support on anything I want." Just makes me sick.
sweetamishbabe read my blog view my photos
Nov 29, 2006 | 8:12 PM

As a mother of 4, I raised my children alone and received $80.00 a week child support. Now that isn't per child either. My childrens father never paid a red cent for anything other than what they took out of his paycheck for support. I was not a coke head. I barely got any food stamps and didn't get wic.I had to pay for all of their sports, cheerleading, music, and everything else that goes along with raising a child/children. My ex ran around in a brand new truck he bought, new designer clothes and could afford to have whatever he wanted and eat out all the time. He would tell the kids he would be there on Sat morning to pick them up and never show up. He would never give them any money for anything extra that they may ask for. Not all moms take advantage of child support. Others use it for themselves for whatever they want. Moms who love and care about their kids make sure that it is used for them and their needs/wants.
moe06
Nov 29, 2006 | 8:16 PM

I feel that the government should control what child support money is spent on. they should have a family advocate purchase the clothes and necessities the child needs or make it as to where child support can monitor what the money is spent on and if they use it on anything other than basic needs they should suspend their privilages.
sweetamishbabe read my blog view my photos
Nov 29, 2006 | 8:28 PM

Now on the other hand, my son has 4 children whom he loves very much. He pays $800 plus a month support. She splurges on everyting, not drugs though. She tries to keep the kids away from him because she is a control freak. He goes overboard spending on the kids. They are in competition for the kids. It is all about money, how much can I get, how much can I spend. Whatever happened to just being a family. Reguardless, you can't blame all women for being money hungry or all dads for being deadbeats. Different people and different situations. Don't compare all women to each other and the same with men. Each situation is unique as each person is unique. It does upset me when people use their childrens support for personal gain and those who forget they have kids other than to pay their support.
Brownsfreak read my blog
Nov 29, 2006 | 10:24 PM

support is also used to go towards food, electric ,gas and house payment. not just clothes,toys and sports fees
quarryshark read my blog view my photos
Nov 29, 2006 | 10:27 PM

I have been on both sides of the custody issue.
Many years ago when I was divorced my ex (of course) recieved custody. The child support agency was extremely aggressive in making sure I paid.
Within a year and a half I proved her to be an unfit mother and after many court fights was awarded custody and she was ordered to pay the minimum in child support payments. In the 10 years I had custody, I never recieved a penny in support. I for the most part left it alone, I was tired of being in court and simply wanted this dysfuntional person to leave us alone. We did go to court for another reason during this time and the judge found her in contempt for non payment. Basically slapped her on the hand and and she went on her merry way. The child support agency NEVER went after her. Never even sent a letter to her.
When my duaghter turned 16 she opted on Christmas visitation to stay with my ex. I allowed it without a fight and custody changed hands again. (my duaghter did not like living by rules).
Lo and behold after 10 years of nonpayment, my ex filed for child support payment and the agency was once again jumping down my throat within weeks.
I had to go to court to get a judge to force the child support agency to give me credit for the 10 years of nonpayment. I couldn't believe it.
Is the system slanted towards the mothers????...you better believe it.
sweetamishbabe read my blog view my photos
Nov 29, 2006 | 11:40 PM

You bet it does. The system all the way from child support to the court system usually leans in favor of the mother. It is very unfair to dads who love there children and can be as good of parent if not better than the mother not be given the same rights as the mother. I don't understand how some women get so much child support and others like myself get very little. I had to work and support my kids (that was ok with me) but the situation I was in I never bargined to be a single mother. But he never did much but pay his support. You can't feed 4 growing kids, clothe, provide shelter plus the school activities with $80 a week. But we managed. Not many children like rules especially teenagers. I applaud all of you dads who take an interest in raising your children.
Pikie read my blog view my photos
Nov 30, 2006 | 12:04 PM

They base child support on income (or so they say) based on both mother & father. I understand that child support is for rent, food, electric, clothes, etc. But when the father is on disability (even though his income went down $18,000/per year, support didn't go down) and they are taking 1/3 of his monthly income he doesn't have any extra to give for school clothes, sports fees and school pictures.
Brownsfreak read my blog
Dec 2, 2006 | 10:22 AM

Someone needs to even the field. Mothers need to be held to the same level of support as fathers and be held to the same punishment as fathers. Maybe then single parents and there children won't have to struggle, besides it is equal rights CORRECT
Brownsfreak read my blog
Dec 2, 2006 | 10:31 AM

I do what I do for them, Thats my life as father.I don't ask for a reward.I get mine when my children smile for the little things I can do.It doesn't matter if I have to live in an alley or a mansion.We'll fight it together NO MATTER WHAT and hopefully then they learn and grow up to be caring parents for their children and not just for themselves.Thats all I want!
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