I have been married since 1985. I have stayed home while my husband has supported us all these years. "Back in the day", whenever there was a phone call for my husband, (electric co, dr's office, car loan company, ect.) I would simply tell the person that my husband was at work, and I could help them since I am the one who handles all the money in our household. I never had to get "clearance" from my husband to speak on his behalf.
Our home is financed through Chase Bank. They have been calling leaving messages that they would like to talk to us about lowering our interest rate on our home loan. Whenever I answer the phone, they ask for my husband, when I say he is at work, they always say "oh, ok, tell him we called" They cannot discuss any part of our home loan with ME. My name is on the deed, but not the loan.
I always looked at marriage as a binding contract. (among other things) My husband has my blessing to speak on my behalf on any subject with any body. I feel like, as a wife, I really don't have the rights I use to have.
I'm ready to tell Chase Bank that my husband is MY client. I am his financial coordinator, and therefore, they must propose any loan offers to ME, and if I feel they are in the best interest of MY client I will have him return the call! After all, my husband is a busy man. He works hard everyday so he can pay this mortgage.
I really wonder why gay and lesbians fight so hard to be recognized as "married". Reality check, it doesn't give you the rights it USE to. Any one can be assigned your power of attorney for medical decisions. If you buy a house with someone-as long as thier name's on the LOAN, they have more rights as I do as a WIFE.
Just needed to vent today.
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girlscout
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girlscout
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WannabQueen
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I am a homemaker. I hope to start breeding goats in the spring. I have 2 alpines, 1 nigerian dwarf, 1 pygmy, and on mix goat. My children are grown, so now my goats are my "kids".
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