gabulldogmom's Blog

Hi gabulldogmom~~
What is FAMILY?? Hmmm i really need to think about that one because to me family used to mean parents, grandparents, brother/sisters, cousins ,aunt and uncles. That all changed for me the year i decided to leave my abusive husband. For years and years everyone tried to talk me into leaving this monster saying they all would be there for me and the kids. Well they were there to take me and the kids to the women shelter for abused women and they were there to bring us home 30 days later. After that my ex stalked me and the kids so i had to stay home where i felt we were safer and i was keeping the rest of the "family" safe,. See if i did not go anywhere than i would not have to worry about him doing things to them like he did. It soon turned into no one came to see me and the kids because they were afraid he would follow them or something would happen. So i learned to be by myself. I had a few friends and one of them THANK GOD introduced me to her brother who is now my fiance' after 6 years of dating.I can't even say "dating" cuz i never went anywhere. Anyways he started introducing me to his friends who are now my family. My fiance, his friends, my kids...my dogs.Family to me is someone who is there for you no matter what hard times come around, no matter how mad you make each other...family is always there!!! HUGS, KISSES, I love YOU'S..that is family!!

Thank you for your kind words in the other blog. I am not looking for anyone to feel sorry for me. I know i am a survivor. It was a long hard road but i am farther than i was years ago. when i said it was personal...i just meant to say that some people in blog land tend to take things too far and the wrong way so if they saw what i wanted to say about my past they might say something negative and i would get really offensive, and i am trying so hard to get over that, but it takes time.
I am glad you too are a survivor! I know everyone has problems and have it a lot worse than me, but my problems are my problems and they were the worse for me. But thank you again gabulldogmom for listening as i babble.

Very good point you said gabulldogmom..It is true, family does not need to be blood. Yet, you or us as children want our parents to love us and our parents to accept us. I know that for sure, because I grew up in an alcoholic home that was my father. We have never had a relationship. I love my father for giving me life, yet I had to do that over my lifetime as an adult. My mom, we have a good relationship now, although my mom enabled my dad for many years of his drinking and abuse, verbal. I love my mom, yet I cannot tell her. My parents never hugged us when we were growing up, I have a sister and brother.Never told us that they loved us and only time we got hugs when we were lectured then hugs came and they told us they loved us. When my son was growing up I made sure he knew I loved him, because I told him and hugged him all the time. I am a lot closer to my mother in law than my own mom. Women at my church I am closer to them than my own mother. Especially my aunt and she is not blood, she married my uncle, my mom's brother. WEll glad you have someone you can go to gabulldogmom. Yet, you have your "bloggin friends" take care.