butterflykisses427's Blog

Step-father, mmmmmmmmm, well, that is a problem right there, is the biological father around? Is he in the boys life? What is the realationship like, what is the deal with mom and the step-dad? Say what you will,just go look at "YOU TUBE" & "MY SPACE" PARENTS HAVE NO CLUE, beleive me I deal with kids of all ages everyday "almost" and parents too!! It all starts at home, most parents don't want to know " don't ask won't know don't tell, we/I don't want to really know!! Yet parents are so protective of thier kids, if anyone yells,tells,speaks or trys to straighten the kid doing wrong, GET THE LAWYERS, it used to be my neighbors could yell at me and then my parents would back him up, my folks always said to us kids, you have no rights until you move out of the house and you are on your own and I was 22yrs old when I came home from Vietnam from the Marine Corps and even then my mom&dad said while you are under are roof you will do what we say!!! Out of respect for my mom&dad, I did just that, parents today just plan don't have a handle, they want thier kids to be friends with them be chums, WRONG, YOU'RE A PARENT, BE ONE FOR GODS SAKE11

Realitychic: Biological father or not when this guy married the kid's mother he made the decision to be a parent to her child. He has the ability to make a difference in a child's life or screw them up like a biological parents. Just because he's a step doesn't automatically absolve him of any responsibility towards the child.

I agree. I do know though when I was in high school the hockey team would have practices at 11:00pm and they would not get out until after midnight on school nights. Hockey was the only sport like that though so for the majority of sports it was after school.

But the parents should have known and kept their eyes open. Not to mention they should have taught better values. It doesn't matter if it is a step father or not. He is still the father in the house. There are plenty of families out there that are set up like this.

OROARK-I'll be 25 next month so unless the changed the laws, a minor is not allowed to work past 10 pm. My first job at Wal-Mart they could not schedule me past 10 (this was in 99-00 until I turned 18). So even with the part time job the kid should have been home at 10:30 at the latest. There is no reason he should have been out until 11:30 at night.

I disagree you enter into marriage with someone who has kids YOU ARE making the decision to become a parent. He is acting father as the father is not around and with that comes the responsibility of parenthood. My stepfather was allowed to dole out punishment if my sister and I misbehaved. The step parent and biological parent are a team and should act as such. If my mom had to work my stepfather was the one who stayed up to make sure my sister and I made curfew. If we broke it you bet your butt we were grounded and we didn't have to wait until my mom came home the next morning (she was a nurse) to tell us.

However if a child have two parents not living together and the two parent decides they will dole out punishments, guidance etc...A step-parent does not have a legal leg to stand on, so step-parents are supportive roles....

No if they want to do more or if one parent is missing in action, that is their choice, not their rightful responsibility by marriage....

Perhaps this kid needs a relationship with his REAL dad.

you are absolutly right butterflykisses

Butterfly your right about the 10pm working hours. My kids never had jobs where they had to work that late even. And untimately it is the custodial parents responsibility. Step parents get to serve as backup (so to speak). Whenever something happened with my kids I got the call not my husband and not their father because they lived with me I was responsible.