Jean_Martirez's Blog

I don't have any kids so forgive my innocense in regard to this subject. I feel anger management should be part of curriculum beginning in first grade. students ought to learn to recognize there feelings when they become upset and rather than act inappropriately, all of us must concentrate on calming down. whether counting to ten, taking a deep breath, walking away from an antagonizing situation, reacting by shouting or violent retaliation is not acceptible.

parents also ought to be calm when doling punishment. some behavior of a child might not be abusive e.g. neglecting her homework or refusing to clean up.) how does a parent motivate the child to cooperate with the parent's vision of proper behavior?

i don't have any kids, but i had girlfriends that did, and i baby sit alot, so this is what i normally do.

i tend to give them 2 verbal warnings. first one just telling them to quit it, 2nd one to explain what is wrong with their behavior. when that doesn't work, then i take away things. i mostly take away t.v., video games, toys, ect. if they still act up then i just call their mom tell them what's up, and let them handle the butt blistering. i don't have a problem with smacking a kid around on the butt if they are asking for it, but i don't think it's right to hit a kid anywhere other then the butt, or a slap on the hand. but that should be a last option.

great to see you blogging again bean. oh yeah you looked really pretty on the the 4th of july report out on the beach. just wondering who were you talking to on your cell phone?

take care bean.

hey samo, technical problems meant i had to have two phones to my ears-- one talking to my producer and the other for an engineer cueing me when i was on the air!

great points blcoffman though that paddle is here to stay.
ruby, i have the very same "look"! my son is now 17 years old, much taller than me but "the look" (along w/counting) still works for me, too

Yeah Jean I no that look its all in what your rules are your right if these kids don't follow the rules the they no what to expect. when kids don't listen or go past 2 or rule its how everyone raises kids different its just good to be fair and discipline at the same time being a parent is needing that discipline line to draw to show right from wrong . Thanks Brenda

Yeah.. I do believe it is against the law to hit your children with anything other than an open hand. I'm shocked that this topic was laughed at. It is ridiculous. I do understand that not all children respond well to spankings, but there are other methods and if those don't work, it is probably due to the parents consistency.

hmm, that sucks bean. i mean going all the way, for one shot, and it didnt come out right at the end. but on the good side, you looked great, and it was a nice area. plus it must be cool just going out, not really having to do anything but just chill as you go for the ride, work for a few min's then head home.

Jean YOU LOOKED GREAT thats it !!!!

Whenever my kids got a bit too unruly and I couldnt get through to them by talking, I would just say "Well if you wont listen to me then I will have to tell your dad and he can handle it."
We never really had to spank our kids, but for some reason no one wants to piss off my husband.
He is not afraid to speak his peace, to anyone.

It's all about expectations.
Yes Brenda, Thornyone and dasvics and Stefani,
my kids learned early in their lives (by age 3) that I'll follow thru with punishment if they act up. That's their expectation of me (sounds like that's the expectation Thornyone's kids have of their dad!) Expectations work best with communication.
I'm blessed that I actually enjoy the company of my 12 year old girl and 17 1/2 y.o. son. We talk incessantly in my home so there's no question about our family's values and expectations. Knock on wood, it's still working, however dasvics is right--parenting is a tough job, I have to take it day to day. As soon as I think I have it figured out, no doubt my teenager will set me straight!
Samo.. you're always good for a stroke of my fragile ego. Thanks, as always for your kind comments.