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Talking about the ole ball and chain
Mar 12, 2007 | 4:13 PM
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Last week, our news featured the unveiling of a glass bottom viewing deck, cantilevered 75 feet from the edge of the Grand Canyon. Someone on our floor crew teased, a wife can meet her demise when a husband tells her to scoot over on that deck for a photo. "Step back a little, Honey. A little more, a little more, uh...just one more step..uhhh, uh-oh." Get it? It's a joke.
More "ball and chain" humor a few days earlier. A news story about women too tired for their friends and family elicited the snide comment "Ladies, just sleep through sex with your husband!" Nothing's funnier than publicly emasculating your hubby, right? C'mon, lighten up. It's a joke.
Grrrr..I have little tolerance for spousal sarcasm. I know from my past personal experience, how it starts out with playful little jabs at our partner. Then, quicker than you can say "just kidding!" it becomes THE WAY a couple communicates. It's common. It's ingrained. It's toxic. Comments that are, on the surface just jokes, but, at their core, really caustic, mocking, biting and derisive.
I know. Every household is different. But the world beats up on our loved ones all the time. Why join in on the punching? Let's say no to the "just kidding" syndrome.

I'm curious what you think.

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samo714 read my blog view my photos
Mar 12, 2007 | 6:13 PM

I'm not married, but i think in general it's not cool to poke fun at friends/family on sensitive subjects. i think making fun or commenting on such sensitive subject just hurts more then what people let on. i'm totally against it. it just helps in making a person feel insecure about themselves.
misslotus read my blog
Mar 13, 2007 | 3:38 AM

Ummmmm...I think everyone sense of humor is different. The little spousal jabs could sometimes be used to release a little tension without having to go into a whole "open up your feelings" therapy session. If you don't like that particular kind of humor just let your loved ones know so that they don't kid around with you in that manner. Not everyone takes the little jabs to heart and not everyone develops issue over a freakin joke.

If a "joke" directed towards you really bothers you step up and say something. But don't expect everyone to be so PC. Cause what irks and bothers you may not even be an after thought for someone else.

BTW..."sleeping through sex with your husband" how you viewed it as emasculating a person's husband, I viewed as just being freakin tired without even thinking about how that statement reflected on the husband. It's all personal interpretation don't shun people for not interpretting things your way. If you don't get it then you don't get it. Someone else out there may get it.
ddain read my blog view my photos
Mar 13, 2007 | 5:15 PM

"I took my wife on a pleasure trip...I took her to the airport." -- Henny Youngman.

I think it depends on the spouse. If they have a good sense of humor and are thick skinned, then I think a few jabs are funny. As long as they aren't digs on someone's character and are mean-spirited, I think they're fine.
Jean_Martirez read my blog view my photos
Mar 13, 2007 | 5:26 PM

MissLotus illustrates my point exactly when, in regards to the sleep thru sex w/your husband comment, you write that you did not view "how that statement reflected on the husband."
It's said that sarcasm is the lowest form of humor. I'm just saying, we should be nicer to those we love.. you'd be surprised how much happier the household becomes when we stop the negative joking.
Starwalk
Mar 13, 2007 | 6:12 PM

You make a good point Jean,

The old adage "....but words can never hurt me" is simply not true. Sarcasm over a period of time, on any level, can hurt a relationship. While my wife and I like to have fun and enjoy humor, we have enough love and respect for each other not to take it to that level. Once again I agree when you said, "we should be nicer to those we love..."
rockie
Mar 14, 2007 | 7:16 PM

I know your husband does not call you a ball and chain ;my wife is filipino and would go for that. we do not like the same jokes
magnus_the_rhino read my blog
Mar 15, 2007 | 7:11 PM

I never really thought about this before. I guess I agree with you- I think these types of comments can be very undermining. I've noticed that when my husband jokes with me, I take it differently depending on my mood. And when I'm mad at him, I tend to remember all of his joking little jabs!
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Jean_Martirez

Since 1995, Jean Martirez has co-anchored the Fox 11 Morning News, seen weekday mornings 5-7 a.m. She's proud of the Emmy Award winning work she's done over the years, but this blissfully married mom of two is happiest hanging out with her close knit family and reading what you've got to blog about.

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