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October 15 - blogging for poverty

There’s a lot of financial uncertainty these days, but the reality is that even though we feel poorer, most of will never experience true poverty. We may not always get or have what we want but we are blessed with the necessities.  If you want to calm your fears about financial matters, try gaining perspective by giving to those who have much less. Unfortunately, poverty is not just limited to developing nations - you don't have to go much further than your own backdoor to find someone in need.  Today,  I am concentrating on ways of helping the poor in the U.S. to rise out of their poverty with dignity.  Every time I travel, I am struck by the sheer number of homeless people on the streets. And the numbers are climbing.   We find them in cities, in suburbs, under bridges, in parks, and on vacant industrial property. They live in tents, plywood and tarp contraptions that defy definition. Some of the homeless do work. Some have substance-abuse problems. Some suffer from forms of mental illness. Every one of them wants something the rest of us want as well:  love and understanding.

I was exiting the highway on an off ramp when I saw him. Disheveled and limping, he plopped a backpack on the median at the intersection, opened a zipper, and pulled out a sign.

As I drew closer, he unfolded the cardboard and I could read it:

"Why lie?" the sign read. "I want beer."

I was struck by the honesty of the sign . . . and touched by the reality of this man's plight.

For some, the homeless offer an opportunity for charity and for self-reflection.   Each person living on the streets has a unique story of why they are homeless.

  • Some are illegal immigrants.
  • Some are veterans.
  • Some are people who found out a low-paying job doesn’t come close to paying for rent, electricity, food, and medicine.

Low wages is a problem

  • With a tent and $20, a homeless man can have shelter and food for the day, without the hassle of checking into a shelter, meeting its regulations about substance abuse and having to deal with a curfew. Either way, he will be no closer to finding a job, a car, an apartment or health insurance.
  • If he worked 40 hours a week at a minimum wage of $5.15 per hour, he would make $824 a month. The cheapest apartments in our area run about $550 a month, plus $75 for electricity. That leaves $199 to cover everything else. If his job is not within walking distance but is on the bus route, he would spend $4 per day commuting -- that’s another $80 a month. That leaves roughly $4 per day for food and any other necessities.

Inability to work is a problem

  • Unable to work because of physical disabilities.
  • Unable to work because of mental illnesses.
  • Unable to work because of lacking people skills.
  • Unable to work because of a severe lack of coping skills.

Most government programs and some homeless charities fail to address all the needs of the homeless. Most areas offer shelters and soup kitchens for the homeless, but these facilities are in fixed locations, so they serve limited populations.

Wikipedia defines Poverty as: The deprivation of common necessities that determine the quality of life, including food, clothing, shelter and safe drinking water, and may also include the deprivation of opportunities to learn, to obtain better employment to escape poverty, and/or to enjoy the respect of fellow citizens.

If we are to look at this definition of poverty, we can work to re-write the outcomes by not only providing the basics of food and shelter to those in need but we can provide skills, education, job training, health care, counseling.  If we were to spend more time and money up front, we could put a stop to the cycle of poverty and homelessness by helping people stand on their own and be responsible for their own well being rather than relying on others.  Clearly adding a "sense of self and self-worth".  We also need to make sure we have mental health coverage for those in need so they may pay for proper care and shelter.

As our economy continues to sour, we don't just need temporary housing and temporary solutions for our citizens, we need intensive programs that cover whatever a person might need in order to stay in permanent, supportive housing.   

For some, the homeless offer an opportunity for charity and for self-reflection.  Well meaning people can help the homeless by:

  • Many people around here carry small bags of toiletries and non-perishable food, giving these necessities to the homeless they see at street corners.
  • Others give them Bibles, blankets, or tarps.
  • Some give them a kind word.
  • Many "adopt" families during the holiday season to help with food and warm clothing
  • There are groups like Superheroes Anonymous' ….(what a great story) and many other worth while organizations who help on a temporary basis to make a HUGE difference in the lives of many and they need to be applauded! or

Sadly, the faces of Poverty in America come in a variety of forms.  In addition to the homeless, today, there are many hard-working citizens and elderly who are one bad break from being out on the streets.

Why not reach out to your neighbor and ask them how you can help, take them an unexpected meal, offer to babysit or help with home improvements.  Sometimes, just the offer, knowing that someone cares means more than you will ever realize.

Even our children are learning the value of helping others, check out the wonderful things they have done one Club Penguin - Kids Helping Kids ... let's continue to support this type of activity  - let your kids know how much their efforts, no matter how small (pulling weeds for an elderly neighbor - things they may not have the extra funding for), are appreciated.

      WHAT CAN YOU DO TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR COMMUNITY?

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nan2sing read my blog view my photos
Oct 15, 2008 | 5:37 PM

This was inspiring...It should make us all aware that there are many who need our help. Reaching out and undersanding the sufferings of others is a way to minimize the burdens of our own hearts. When we focus on helping those in need, it blesses us in ways that we never could have imagined...

It is true that we whine because we feel that we don't have enough...Most of us have never known or seen true need. I appreciate your post. It gives us all a lot to think about. As we reach out to others we can make a difference. How hard can it be to extend kindness?

Executivemom read my blog view my photos
Oct 15, 2008 | 6:02 PM

nan -
thank you for your response - very nicely put!

mancillas read my blog
Oct 16, 2008 | 12:45 AM

You must keep in mind though: I have run across a few homeless people that simply want money for drugs or booze!

I actually sat and talked to a homeless man that had more money than I did! He offered to buy me a beer, and wanted nothing to do with me helping him in getting him "back on track!"

When I see a person with a sign now....I do NOT offer money. I offer food and clothing. Some of them got mad at me because I offered them a cheeseburger! They only wanted money!

Sad thing is, alot of these people have their children out there with them. The children get nothing and the adult simply takes the money for their "addiction".

I am in troubled times myself... How do you differentiate the people who want to help themselves from the ones who are hustlers?

Jimmy-42 read my blog
Oct 16, 2008 | 8:59 AM

If you want to see true poverty, go to places like Jamaica, Mexico, Haiti, etc.. Now, don't go to the tourist locations in these places, go to where the real population lives. What you'll find is that even the really poor in this country have it pretty good in comparison. Now, don't get me wrong, there are people in this country that have very bad situations.

Executivemom read my blog view my photos
Oct 16, 2008 | 2:15 PM

Mancillas: I agree with you. I never give people money. If they do want something, i don't mind giving them the necessities and yes, some people don't want to change - they like as it is. That is their choice. My family is definitely going through very hard times and we will never make our ends meet at the moment (and they used to overlap) but we do our best to keep food on the table and have clothes for the kids.
Jimmy - as I've traveled I have seen the poverty in Jamaica (one reason i won't go back there to vacation) and Mexico. Saw it recently in St Maarten as well. But i have a problem with spending our money to help others in other countries when we do have so many in need right here at home. No, we don't have the same poverty levels these countries do but we do have hard working families - many who used to be what we called "middle class" who are unable to pay their housing bills, who can't afford food, who have no health care, who don't get fresh fruit or veggies because they can't afford them and are left to eat the starchy, unhealthy foods that in turn causes weight gain which isn't their fault but that turns to poor health and with no health insurance they aren't cared for which then eventually puts a strain on our health care system as the person ends up in the ER (someone has to pay for that - others with increased premiums and co-pays) which leads to shorter life spans, etc. it's a vicious cycle and I'm not talking about people on welfare. I'm talking about hard working individuals - ones who probably put in more hours than a lot of us. Ones who leave th

Executivemom read my blog view my photos
Oct 16, 2008 | 2:16 PM

their teens at home to care for their younger siblings - not allowing for time for higher education. One thing snow balls to another. If we could do things "up front" rather than at the back end trying to fix - we would all be better off as a country.
JMO
Best - Execmom

SikUvTheRite read my blog
Oct 16, 2008 | 2:18 PM

Stunningly powerful blog! Excellent and so full of truth and love!

Of course, here comes some of the right-wingers, those folks who themselves had everything handed to them but just HATE people having everything handed to them.

Like Jimmy: So poverty is WORSE in Jamaica, Haiti and Mexico? Funny, those are all countries we SUPPORT, aren't they? In fact, poor Haitians escaping their brutal facist capitalism are turned away at our border - it is only those escaping god-less communism allowed to our pristine shores! Why not instead, Jimmy, go to places like Germany, Italy, France - see much poverty there? Sure these is, but they take care of their own, unlike we do.

And mancillas, I work regularly with the homeless who have mental challenges, and quite frankly, I don't have a problem with them "having a beer" in their situation. I have to be realistic (which is completely unlike the fringe far-right) and say that's probably what I would have done, too, had I been born into, literally, nothing. Of course, I know that doesn't do them any good, but if it makes them feel better for even an instant - so be it. If you and I can have a beer, why not them? Are we special? To be fair, I don't give money much to folks on the street, but there are FAR FAR WORSE people than some poor homeless guy who takes a dollar and buys a beer with it. For example, taking tax money away from programs for the poor and handing it as a tax break to some rich tycoon so he can party in Paris and have an expensive cocktail at my expense - FAR FAR WORSE.

Generally, you do the best you

SikUvTheRite read my blog
Oct 16, 2008 | 2:19 PM

Generally, you do the best you can. My advice is never to just hand out money to those begging (it usually just makes the problem worse, anyway, if they learn to depend on handouts), but always offer clothes, food, or an agency referral. The folks who want help, we need to guide them to it. The folks who don't want help, that's their choice and all we can do is let them live with their decision.

Personally, though, I don't think ANY of them have it "pretty good in comparison" to anything.

Again, thanks, ExecutiveMom. You're right, I think we're about to see a new poverty population - the elderly who lost their savings and/or retirements (or "one bad break"). It's coming soon. And we need as many young people as possible to be prepared to help.

Executivemom read my blog view my photos
Oct 16, 2008 | 2:41 PM

Sik:
Thank you! I sadly agree that things will be getting worse and it frightens me for our aging population. They have worked, saved and now may be losing their homes and savings to survive how? I'm not a radical but I do believe if we just took a moment to "look out for our own" rather than worrying about every other country on this planet we could get some of our "own strength back". It doesn't really take much either! It sickens me to see the greed in this country - a bail out for wall street just to AIG corporates can vacation? At my expense? What the??
I believe even just the small niceties make a difference. If we all looked out for our neighbors even, asked if they needed anything when we ran to the store, whatever. Doesn't take anything big or dramatic - the little things do make a difference!

g8wayrebel read my blog view my photos
Oct 16, 2008 | 4:23 PM

Mr Buck is the first place I go.
St Patrick's center downtown does more than any other organization I've ever seen to help with real improvement in self respect confidence and the road to pride and self sustenance.
Any one who asks or any opportunity I get , I donate to that program.
I see homeless all the time traversing the city and find most don't want help , they want to be victims.
As I've said many times, enabling is crippling , you have to empower people to have any success.
Giving money to homeless people is usually a waste of money and exacerbates the problem.
Give them direction , hope and love.
If they refuse those, they are a waste of your time.
Volunteer if you can , but if you're going to donate , give to people who can make a real difference and have legitimate political clout like Dan Buck (St Patrick's center).
That's the best way to show both the homeless and the politicians you care.

g8wayrebel read my blog view my photos
Oct 16, 2008 | 4:27 PM

Low wages aren't the problem either.
Lack of fundamentals , parenting and thereby education and guidance are.
Hold your neighbor accountable for their child and have no tolerance for crime and incorrigibility in your neighborhoods, that's the solution.
Until someone has guidance and hope , how can they be accountable?
It takes an education to succeed and hope to pursue it.
Granted, that education may not come from "school" as we know it but idiots aren't running successful businesses either.

FREEDOMFREE read my blog view my photos
Oct 16, 2008 | 8:32 PM

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Jimmy-42 read my blog
Oct 17, 2008 | 9:47 AM

I think that my statement about our poverty versus other poverty was misinterpreted. I wasn't trying to lessen the fact that we do have poverty in this country, nor was I implying that we should not worry about poverty in this country. I personally donate both time and money to various organizations to assist the impoverished and/or homeless. But, the fact is that most of the impoverished in this country have access to some assistance at various levels, so Sik we do take attempt to take care of our own. The real problem is that there are so many who are in it for the free ride that those who really need assistance often don't get what they need.

And, Sik, I didn't have everything just handed to me, even though I do lean to the right. I have a good job because I worked hard in school to get a good education, and I've worked hard in my job to work my way up the ladder. I have a fair amount of money set aside for retirement/emergencies, not because someone gave it to me, but, because I started putting money away early in life. I own my home, again not because someone gave it to me, but, because I've lived in the same house for 25 years.

mrmgrady read my blog view my photos
Oct 17, 2008 | 1:04 PM

Thanks for your blog!!

I was briefly homeless (from November 29, 2006 to February 1, 2007). I stayed at Rev. Rice's shelter at 1411 Locust St. for two nights (Never again!). I stayed a motel near Northwest Plaza for the other 64 days until I moved into my apartment. What saved me was my warm car (I didn't have a winter coat during that ice storm in 2006), St. Patrick's Center, The Housing Resource Center of Catholic Charities (phone: 314-802-5444) and my beloved late associate pastor, Fr. Bob Wirth, CSsR (whose picture in in my album).

My only complaint is that Rev. Rice warehouses the homeless and does very little to address the cause of their homelessness. St. Patrick's Center, The Housing Resource Center, The Sts Peter and Paul Communities all work on the causes of homelessnes and have programs to address it.

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