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What would You do If you Only Had 30 Days?
Aug 1, 2008 | 4:07 PM
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Recently, I've complained a lot about my health.  I've been diagnosed with a liver disease that gives me a "life expectancy" of about 10 years.  I'm not one who likes limits or people telling me what I will or will not / can or can not do.  I will show them!  Or, in 10 years, who knows - that's a long time to come up with some new "cure".  Or maybe, for no reason, my body will decide it likes itself again and the disease progression will slow down.  There are never any guarantees...maybe tomorrow I'm be "hit by a bus"....I guess that's one reason I never try to waste any of the time I'm blessed with here on Earth.

In the grand scheme of things, 10 years really is a long time for "anything" to happen.  Last night, I watched the Bucket List for the first time...I cried all the way through and loved the life lesson all the same. 

At the beginning of June, one of my best childhood friends was diagnosed with terminal cancer.  It's a melanoma that's spread and is in the lungs and brain.  She is doing experimental treatment right now and finishes today.  The exciting part of it all?  At the time of diagnosis, they said she wouldn't "make it" to her birthday....well TODAY, I have to say  "HAPPY BIRTHDAY"!   She is an 11 year survivor of ovarian cancer that they said she'd never live through so I'm betting she will conquer this mountain just as she did the last...I'm praying.

My point of all this dreary news on a Friday afternoon when it's time to go party?  What would you do if you were given 30 days to live?  How would you spend it?

Remember to enjoy every minute of your time and have a wonderful and SAFE weekend.


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Flaglady read my blog view my photos
Aug 1, 2008 | 4:46 PM

Top 10 Things I want to do (not in any special order)
1. Visit Washington DC Memorials
2. Go with an entertainment group to visit the troops in Iraq and Afghanistan
3. Visit all the Gold Star Families I know.
4. Make my mom order the tombstone for my uncle who was killed in WWII. Right now we disagree where it should be placed.
5. Make videos to my daughter to grow up with. Videos would be mother-daughter talks on life and what to expect when .... first date, if daddy wants to remarry, get married, have a baby etc etc
6. Make videos for my granchild and future grandchildren.
7. Throw a hell of a party but don't tell anyone it is because will be gone soon.
8. Make all of my own arrangements so my family doesn't have to.
9. Won't worry about housework or cooking dinner.
10. Live everyday like it was my last

30 days will not be enough time for my Top 10.
kurkel read my blog view my photos
Aug 1, 2008 | 4:49 PM

If I had only 30 days I would certainly go on that cruise I have never been on....

Other than that...I would just spend alot of time with my family and friends (and yes I do that now...)

Being a nurse in the ICU I realize how quickly life can change and I try not to take anything for granted. I try to live life to the fullest without hurting anyone else...and I try to enjoy ea. moment....ea. person....the beauty in ea. day....b/c there is you know....a different beauty to see and enjoy every day!

I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis but you dont strike me as someone who will either give up or live ea. day worrying about the disease etc...

Prayer, faith ...hope....those things will bring you so much further. Those people who have positive attitudes, who have faith and hope live way beyond expectations...I see it all the time! Let me know if there is specific things you would like me to pray for you, I truely believe in the power of prayer!
Executivemom read my blog view my photos
Aug 1, 2008 | 5:01 PM

Flaglady - what a neat list! some wonderful things there..really like the idea of the video for your daughter (similar to that last lecture on oprah by the professor for his kids - very moving and i'm sure will be forever cherished by them - and his wife)

Kurkel - thank you so much for the prayers...they mean a lot and i too believe they come with a lot more power than we give them credit for. God has a plan for us all. I don't always understand it at that moment but in hind site i can always say "aha" that was the lesson! Nope not giving up...tired and extremely sore but hey i'm over 40 so that must be it :)
bless you - execmom
kurkel read my blog view my photos
Aug 1, 2008 | 5:05 PM

yeah ...the over 40 thing! I am there with you! I am tired and sore all over as well. My bones ache more and more and I move a whole lot slower than I ever used to! And I used to be such a great multitasker! Not so great anymore! ....lol....

Keep me updated and shoot me anything you would like me to pray for specifically. I would like to give you my email adress but dont want to leave it posted on here....
Speedy62269 read my blog
Aug 1, 2008 | 6:29 PM

Nice blog!

I would be forced to do the things I've wanted to accomplish in my lifetime ... in 30 days. I would focus on the things that could be done in/around the community to create change.

There are many issues that need resolved, many people that need some type of help, and many people that need forgiven; therefore community payback/service is my answer.

As for trips etc...I hate traveling so that saves me some time and lots of money. Flaglady mentioned making arrangements now - each of you should already have a pre-arranged funeral! It's cheaper now and much easier to do so ... now.

And I would just try to smile every day even if someone is rude around me. It's a matter of not sweating the small stuff - right? - and it's all small stuff!
Executivemom read my blog view my photos
Aug 1, 2008 | 7:17 PM

Kurkel - you can reach me through my website at www.execdeftech.com and leave me your information - comes straight to me...thanks again.

Speedy - sounds like a full plate and lots to accomplish in 30 days! wonderful things though and nice to think of others. Love the beach so i think my money would be spent on one last trip there - nothing more relaxing than the sounds of the ocean (at least for me) and aahh the funeral thing. My dad keeps telling me - people just don't want to accept that death is a part of living. My grandma always talked about her "arrangements" & i hated to hear it - meant she wasn't invincible but in the end was easier for all of us as we grieved. Friend is doing that now - told her more power to her but don't want to hear about which set of china she's decided to give me (she's a collector of lots of stuff and has no kids) - i still have trouble with that pre-planning thing.
Yep - it is all small stuff but some things are overwhelming at times :)
mr_wildflower read my blog view my photos
Aug 2, 2008 | 9:03 AM

Just like one of my favorite songs go.......

........" Live Like You Were Dying "........

And when I die I plan to owe a lot of people a lot of money.......
harp read my blog view my photos
Aug 2, 2008 | 10:23 AM

I been sick from birth,I had my small intestines opperated on..Had high feavers a lot from age 4 til was 9..And back then they packed you in ice not like today when they put one em suites on ya..

I was born with all my orgains smaller than they should be and they still are but all working good kinda now lol..

I had a hisaresame when I was 22 because it din't work..I din't hit pubity till I was 21..

I was told at age 15 I probly would only live another year..Well had a wish and got it a ride in a hot air ballooon..But I lived LOL.

Then one day my brain swelled and I was in a coma..I belive that happed because my birth parents din't want to miss there night out with friends,to take me to the ER ROOM.

Well they thought I was going to die because doctor told em they should get things in order..They whent so far to have a grave stone made..It had my name on it and a river and a dog an kid fishing on a rock..

Well as far as I know that stone is still in the garage..LOL
I was not ready to kick the bucket yet...

So to cut a story short I have cheated death 4 times in m life..I guess I not ready to go yet or got 9 lives and not used em all up yet...

Anyways I am still kicken so guess I will have to stay on earth for now...LOL
harp read my blog view my photos
Aug 2, 2008 | 10:27 AM

I think because what I been through I live each day as if it last one..I have no fear of death at all and I belive when your time comes your going and there not a thing you can do about it..

I done most thing on my list,all I got left is Bungee Jumping mom won't let me and parashuting out of a plane at age 75..Yep I plane on liveing that long at lease..

I also have a list of places I like to go to but doubt if I ever get to see em all..

My bigest wish is to live in a 3 bedroom home so Willie and me can run around and play without bothering others downstairs..But doubt if that will ever happed eather..

But hey my life is great would not change a thing...
IbKat read my blog view my photos
Aug 2, 2008 | 11:10 AM

live each day as it was the last without regrets -
MissDaisy read my blog view my photos
Aug 2, 2008 | 11:43 AM

Hi ExecMom.. Denial works for me. :)

I am an 11 yr breast cancer survivor, 7 yr uterine ca.. diabetic with high blood pressure. Exercise and diet changes got me off the meds I was taking for a year for diabetes.. that was 6 yrs ago.

I was diagnosed with breast cancer in '97. I thought.. "this is it". I was only 43. Then 2 people died suddenly in accidents that year. There was nothing wrong with them medically. I decided then that I have JUST as much time on this planet as anyone else.

As for the bucket list.. I started taking piano lessons just over a year ago. I've always wanted to play! I just applied for and received a passport! It's funny, the application asked my travel plans. I put..NONE.. lol It arrived in EIGHT days! I was tired of looking at places to go and have my dreams squashed because I had no passport. :) Now, I'm free to travel the world.

May you fullfill your own bucket list and like mr_wild quoted in the song... Live Like You Were Dying..

I said a prayer for you. I believe in the power of prayers!
Executivemom read my blog view my photos
Aug 2, 2008 | 2:44 PM

Harp - you always AMAZE me - thanks for sharing! :)

Miss Daisy - What an inspirational woman! I am now 3 years uterine ca ... thank you for sharing all of your strength and the prayers - mean a lot and will remember that for a passport - need one "just to have"!

Mr_Wild: one of my favorite songs too...some days get too busy or tired and "forget" and those days can't be wasted!
bill01 read my blog
Aug 3, 2008 | 9:31 AM

I would live my last 30 days just like I live every day. You never know when you're going to go so I try to make the most out of every day I have. The one thing I hope to be able to say right before I die is that I have no regrets over things I didn't get to do or that I didn't spend enough time with loved ones. Right now I would have that regret since I can't see my wife and son but as soon as I get back I'm not going to let them out of my sight until I have to go away again. To quote a Tim McGraw song, "Live like you were dying" because we all are..
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